Improving Communication by Challenging Assumptions

Improving Communication in Your Relationship: Challenging Assumptions and Allowing Growth

In any relationship, communication is key—but it's not just about talking; it’s about truly listening and being open to change. As a therapist, I've seen how easy it is for couples to fall into the trap of assuming they know what their partner is thinking or feeling. These assumptions can create walls between partners, making real connection more difficult.

One powerful way to improve communication is by challenging these assumptions. When you assume you already know what your partner is going to say or how they will respond, you close off the possibility for them to express themselves fully. Instead, approach each conversation with curiosity: What are they really saying? How are they feeling in this moment? Giving your partner the space to share without judgment or preconceptions allows for deeper understanding and emotional intimacy.

Allowing your partner to grow and change is another critical aspect of healthy communication. People are not static; we evolve, and so do our needs and desires. When we hold onto fixed expectations of who our partner is—or worse, who we think they "should" be—we limit their ability to express their true selves. Instead, be open to the idea that your partner can change, learn, and adapt over time. This doesn't mean overlooking harmful behaviors, but rather embracing their growth as part of a dynamic relationship.

By challenging assumptions and supporting your partner’s growth, you're creating a safe space for authentic communication. This not only strengthens your bond but also fosters an environment where both of you can flourish individually and together. Communication, after all, isn’t just about words—it’s about the mutual respect and understanding that make those words meaningful.